I'm a licensed mental health professional, and for over 16 years I've had a front-row seat to what ADHD really looks like in real life - not just in textbooks or treatment plans, but in homes, classrooms, and exhausted parents' hearts.
Again and again, I watched parents do everything they were told to do.
They met with therapists. They followed school recommendations. They read the books. They tried the charts, the routines, the rewards, the consequences.
And still...they were overwhelmed, frustrated, and quietly wondering what they were missing.
Each professional offered a piece of the puzzle - behavior strategies here, accommodations there, emotional support somewhere else. All of it well-intentioned. All of it technically "right."
But no one ever showed parents the picture on the box.
Without understanding WHY their child reacted the way they did... Without seeing how emotional regulation, executive functioning, sensory needs, and parent stress all connect... It was nearly impossible for parents to implement anything consistently - especially when life was already chaotic.
And what struck me most was this: Almost no one was helping the parents themselves.
The focus was always on "fixing" the child's behavior, while parents were left carrying the mental load, the guilt, the self-doubt, and the belief that they were somehow failing - when in reality, they were missing context, not capability. That realization changed everything about how I work with families.